b'1520WHEN YOUR VALENTINE Be the Safe Plac.e Positive Reinforcement It is so important to be eachfor the Win! ThisIS A COWBOYothers safe place. I can vent, cry, one is so important and to beThe middle of February is not a real and carry on to Cody and he willhonest, sometimes the hardest togood time, for cowboys to be listen, have advice and offer hisremember to do. When I see Codythinking bout hearts, roses and wine. opinion. Likewise, Cody can sharebeing the best dad ever, or the bestCause its not all that romantic when things with me and know that I amcowboy ever, I try not to just thinkyouve just started calving, your not judging him or sharing it withit in my head. It is so importantBog Boots have sprung a leak, those around us. to point out those observations.and the tank is frozen shut.When Cody does something that Never Let Your PrayingWhen the cows are sloggin through the mud,16is a turn-on and I tell him (andor theres a cold wind,Knees Get Lazy.know thatlets be honestshow him) how I this is the key factor in keepingfeel about it, you better believe hesAnd your Cowboy spends all day out with em, our marriage stable. Having Godlikely to repeat it! And o by the way,and doesnt make it to town. in the center of our marriage helpsit works both ways! When he comes in all frozen from checkin calves keep our life agenda on track.and feeding hay, dont be mad because he Keeping God in the middle of ourBONUS: Service is love in action.didnt get you a piece of jewelry or flowers. relationship helps our marriageCody needs hugs and kisses while IIts not that he doesnt love you; its just a littlesurvive. As we both look to our Godreceive love through gifts. We havebit of the Cowboy way. as our example of how we should be, we are happier learned what the other needs. When we figured this out,You see, its not that he doesnt know whatand our marriage soars. our marriage life got 10 times better!! love is, he wouldnt be a Cowboy if he didnt have the Love of his passion in his blood.17BONUS: My comment about Cowboys are from Mars (andFor Cowboys, they see Love every day - like Have a Good Partnership. Marriage is a partnership, it is made up of two different individualswomen are from Venus.) The truth is. we solve problemsseeing a new calf take his first steps or when he that have different goals. We need to acknowledge that wein different ways. We respond to stress in different ways. Webrings wildflowers home for you in the summer. need room to grow this partnership and this partnershipexpress ourselves differently. We react differently. So guessI guarantee you that the Love from a Cowboyworks together as a team. So while Cody is good at breakingwhat? We are different. When we celebrate our differenceis one of the best.horses, I am better at giving them treats!! Do you see whatand practice patience in doing so. well it softens the heartSo when your Valentine is a Cowboy,I mean? which makes our relationship better. Appreciate the little things,Appreciate what he does every day,18BONUS: It is so important to establish traditions andAnd tonight, cook him a big steak and crack open Dont LieEver. Always tell the truth. That is all. And if you cannot tell the truth to each other, yourituals. A friend asked me the other day about oura bottle of wine! have bigger problems.traditions and this is what I said: We have started ourTo a cowboys way of thinking, it will go straightown traditions with our family but we also have carried onto his heart. 19traditions from my side and from Codys side, the key isUnderstand that Cowboys sometimes showForgive and Forget. We all make mistakes in our lives and in marriage and I get that, but we have foundthat we make our family unique. their love in other ways. it crucial to be willing to apologize and be ready to forgiveTo say that he really loves you, gives you a hug each other. Did I mention that you have to do this over andAnd one more thing. Say I love you often.and a quick kiss then goes out and checks the over and over? cows, then your Valentine is a Cowboy!ArizonaRealCountry.com February 2023 15'